For someone who prefers quiet moments, my house can get pretty hectic. A typical Monday can see my son lounging around in the nude as his grandmother screams at him to get dressed before spirits steal his naked soul! In my opinion, my son can be naked all he wants but it’s not a battle I choose to have with the woman who brought me into the world and maybe, if pushed, can still take me out!
Looking back at my own childhood, my parents never really argued over how they would discipline me. My mother would loudly suggest that I eat my vegetables or whatever it was I didn’t like. I’d protest and my father would calmly say “Come on, leave the poor child alone, if she doesn’t want it, don’t force her!” And although that led to me having the weirdest diet plan ever, for the most parts, if I did anything wrong, both my parents eventually agreed on one chosen method of discipline but what if they didn’t?
Parenting is never easy and even when you raise a child with a partner you love; you can and will bump heads. Many of us tend to repeat the patterns of discipline we were taught as kids and that simply means that the way we were raised, plays a big part in how we choose to disciple our own children and when two people come together with different views on child rearing, it can be a major source of conflict.
So let’s suppose that you came from a home where spankings were allowed and your partner didn’t. Or what if you grew up in an environment where children were free to explore whilst your partner’s upbringing was more controlled. How do you, as a couple find common ground? Do you both sit calmly and discuss your options; throw your hands up in despair or does it turn into a battle zone? Don’t despair, parenting conflicts can be resolved and to help us along, I’ll share some really useful tips from the one and only. *Dr. Phil Mc Graw.- Psychologist and life strategist.